Joyanna Adams

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Nobody Needs YOUR Opinion.

Okay, I am asking my reades to put in your two cents on this one…It’s just a theory I have formed about grieving.

Yesterday, my favorite parakeet died…his name was Lima.

I KNEW he was on his last days. I have five other parakeets and he was the oldest, and all my birds sleep in the same room with me. I love my birds. Anyway, I cried, and cried, and cried and cried and I held his little warm body in my hands until he got stiff.

I say this because you would have thought I’d lost a member of the family.

But, here’s my theory. I woke up grieving. I thought about my life, how I would never see my only son ever again, or my brother, and my husband and I have grown apart…so I was crazy in grief already, but not crying. Just trying to figure out what I did wrong to make everyone go away.

So, when I found my poor little man on the bottom of the cage, I lost it.

Now, as some of you know, I took care of both my parents. They had massive strokes, and were bedrideen for years. I was their caretaker. It was a hard job. Five years of my life. And when they died, I really didn’t cry much. Why? Because I HAD to stay strong…day after day. Then one day, years later, a dog I had bought died when only three years old. Again, I went into sobbig hysterics.

The tears came pouring out…a river of tears and pain…basically, I had held the grief of my mother and father dying inside for all those years.

Men do the same thing. I read about a man who lost his first child. His wife was grieving terribly. But he couldn’t do it. He HAD to work, and her not understanding WHY he couldn’t stop and grieve put a wedge between them. A man’s brain is WIRED differenent If they cry for too long, they can’t recover.

It’s a fact: Male and female brains, are simply wired different.

Tonight I saw my husband sob, like I’ve never seen. I thought it was about me, but then I realized it was more about how he has worked all his life, his family treated him like shit, and it just all came out.

Sometimes, when you see somebody crying uncontrollably, there is more than just that one death that is the reason. People hold grief inside. They have to in order to function. And then…usually a pet death’s, because pets love us unconditionally, bring forth all that we been hiding from ourselves.

I had a friend come to my aid yesterday. His comfort was quick, and logical. “You need to bury him.” In other words…stop crying and remember death is a part of life. It was what I needed to hear. But he was there for me.

And that’s how I now deal with grief now. I put on the saddest music I can find, I cry REALLY hard, and then, within an hour or a good nights’ sleep, I force myself to go on, and live life.

It works.

So my question to my readers is: What do you think of my theory? Do people hold grief in for years and then something else sets off all the sorrow inside, that you have been holding to forever?

So are funerals important to get people to grieve and move on? By the way, I hate funerals.

My little Lima is now downstairs in the freezer, all wrapped up. I have a bird graveyard in my backyard for all those that I loved and lost, and even some I found dead on the ground. To me, they are the smallest of joy..and I just love them. They are God’s little joyful gifts of song.

They mate, they love, they feed their babies…and they quack. What’s not to love? Lima, I will miss you…because for years you kept me from feeling the horrible loss of my son, and for that I thank you.

And to my friend who was there for me yesterday? Give your mother a big kiss for me, because she obviously raised a good man, and I thank him again for his kindness in my hour of sorrow.

THAT is a good and loving man, rare, and great. Anyway…

Readers? What say you?

October 16, 2024 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , | 3 Comments

What’s YOUR Addiction?

Nobody Knows…

I was listening to a ‘expert’ on dopamine today. He was saying that we are all dopamine addicts…chasing after that drug in the brain that makes men go for the gold, take the risks, be successful…yes, dopamine fixes can be a very good thing…or it can be VERY bad.

The dopamine chase can control your life. And you get addited to that dopamine rush.

Hey, I was a teen during the sixites. I remember how America was FLOODED with drugs during the Vietmam war. My first ‘fiance’ went over to Vietnam, and came back a walking zombie he had done so many drugs.

There are many reports about how the CIA was involved all over the world bringing in drugs in dead bodies from Asia, and then there’s the famous Heroin fields in Afganistan that President George W. Bush made SURE our men were protecting. Which brings me to Hunter Biden..

Wait, I can’t go there. Ha ha. (Yes, I just tried uploading Hunter with a crack pipe, and it was not allowed.)

History reports the British flooded China with herion, and destroyed that country, and so NOW China is destroying the U.S. with fentanyl. Over 100,000 people so far have died from it here, more people than in any of our wars have been killed. But you don’t hear much about it, except from President Trump.

Remember, both Bill Clinton AND Obama were drug addicts. And probably still are. Personally, I wish they’d put Hillary on drugs, and take Biden off of them, but that’s me.

Since I was a working ‘rock’ musician working throughout the 70’s, 80’s etc, most of the musicians I worked with did drugs. Some died, some didn’t. I didn’t do drugs for the simple reason: I knew drugs screwed up your brain and it was the ONLY brain I had, and I didn’t want to make myself any dumber than I was. Simple I know. Simple logic. But addiction is a big problem here in America. Everybody is addicted to something..from video games, to the internet, to TV, to sports, to…McDonalds…you name it:

And it’s all for that dopamine hit. Even political propaganda is addicting. Here’s a list of addicting drugs:

AlcoholTobaccoOpioids (like heroin)Prescription drugs (sedatives, hypnotics, or anxiolytics like sleeping pills and tranquilizers)CocaineCannabis (marijuana)Amphetamines (like methamphetamines, known as meth)HallucinogensInhalantsPhencyclidine (known as PCP or Angeldust)Other unspecified substances

But right now, I want to talk about cocaine. During the 70’s, I went out to California to try to make it as one of the FEW girl drummers in the country at the time. I stayed with a famous producer in his house, and hung out with the very rich children of Hollywood elites. I won’t mention their names, but note: I was a straight girl from Missouri. And what did these ‘kids’ (there were all in the 20’s with LOTS of money) talk about? Cocaine, cars, and running into movie stars on Rodeo Drive.

I couldn’t have been more bored. They all had stars in their eyes, and they all had connections and money from their parents, and so, I never saw any of them work. Really. One thing I did know, they were all spoiled kids of movie stars.

Which brings me to cocaine. The rich can afford it. It’s a rich man’s drug. Robin Williams was hooked on it. Many movie stars are hooked on it. It’s the drug of Hollywood.

And then there are the ‘elite.’ Face it, some of these men do work…80 to 90 hours a week. They have to support whole industries, and travel, and somehow keep it up day after day…you can see how they get hooked.

It’s all about the RUSH…that dopamine utopia. And from what one cocaine addict told me, when you are on coke, you feel like the Master of the Universe. You can DO anything. The downside? These people care more about that drug then any of their family members. They’d sell their soul just to keep that high.

My first husband was on meth. I had NO idea until I came home one day, we were living in my parents basement, and I smelt this horrible smell.

“What IS that smell?” I asked. You know what he said?

“Did your parents smell it?”

Needless to say, a few days later he left me, and his son, who was just one at the time. I didn’t see him for 3 years, the divorce took that long, and after that? Let’s just say, I got barely enough to buy my son’s tennis shoes, and that was pretty bad. So, I told myself I was glad he was out of my life and even though the threatened to take away my son, I called his bluff. “Go ahead.”

He disappeared. Take his drug money away? Never.

Everybody knows, addiction to anything is never a good thing. BUT..they put chemicals in our food, our drinks, just to get us addicted, so that we can be controlled, or killed, or made sick enought for the VAST medical industry to make a fortune. Now it seems they are even killing off the male Y chromosome.

Yes, they want a world full of gays. Just what we need.

I just lost 40 pounds, got off sugar, and I STILL salivate when I see a glazed doughnut. Go into any grocery store.. and the first thing you see? Cupcakes.

You CAN get off most drugs. But Cocaine? I don’t know anybody who ever did. And if they did, they went back on it. Who wouldn’t want to feel like a King?

Our sugar overload in America is enough to kill whole herds of elephants, and that’s what we’ve become.

What the point of all this?

Nancy Reagan had a good mantra: “Just say no.” We NEED to save our kids from addictions. Of anykind.

They made fun of Nancy back then. Why? Well, the old speaker of the House,John Boehner, invested a lot of money in weed. I bet all of our Congress has big investments in it. You keep a country drugged, with week, and they really don’t care what you do to them. It’s being legazied all over our country.

Nevertheless, cocaine? I have a special irk against that one. Elon Musk joked that he wanted to put the cocaine back in Coke.

I’m starting to think maybe it wasn’t a joke? Some say he is buying Coke a Cola.

Maybe, if we were all got a rush off our Coke…we’ work harder like the Chinese…Elon has often said that the Chinese are much better workers than the U.S. workers. Maybe that’s his plan. (LOL)

Which makes one wonder: what are THEY taking over there in China?

I’d better stop.

September 12, 2024 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , | Leave a comment

Nobody’s Fool: Jordan Peterson explains ADHD

This is a great insite into just how many people have ADHD.

I was telling a friend today, that when I was young, my mother bought this toy plastic clock that taught you how to tell time. I was about five. I HATED that toy. She made me sit every day to learn it, but I knew that this was bascially a CONTROL lesson, and there was no way that I was going to have MY time controlled by any clock. And I knew she would use it to do just that.

I did not actually learn how to read a watch until I was a freshman in college. As Jordan says, they controlled all of us through bells. You didn’t have to know a thing about time except you couldn’t WAIT to get out of the school.

Years late, my doctor put me on Ritalin he said to “Help me with all my racing thoughts.” It was a form of speed…and I took it for years, in fact, when I got pregant I asked my doctor what the drug would do to the baby, and he said, “We don’t know.”

My son was born at 6 months premature, and while he was in his incubator at Children’s Hospital downtown, I asked him why my baby was shaking?

He said, “We think he’s coming off the Ritalin.”

The next day, I went cold turkey. Never took another pill.

My son has been diagnosed with ADHD.

And now he’s on some kinds of drugs.

The thing is: It’s not normal for kids to sit in a classroom all day and ‘obey’ and ‘memorzie’ when they want to be playing.

Elon Musk has started schools that I wish every child could go to. Google his schools, you will wish your kids could go there too.

Yes, once again, Jordan Peterson’s great truth comes out to help us all.

Even if it’s too late for me, it’s not for you or your kids.

Don’t let them put your kids on drugs to ‘calm’ them down.

Let the kids, be kids.

April 9, 2024 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , | 1 Comment

Jordan Peterson: Advice on How to Deal with Anxiety and Negative Emotions

Nobody Wonders

In this video, I found at least ten rants I wanted to go on, but there is one thing that I agree with: not every depression is mental. I know this from my own experience.

Every month, since puberty, I became horrible depressed, and it was right before my periods. They now call it PMS, and then PPMS…multiply mine by 10. I suffered a lifetime of it. Doctor after doctor could not help me. I was smart enought to know I wasn’t “MENTAL”, and proud that I came out of it every month intact, but I suffered. Horribly.

Even Stephen King couldn’t fathom it.

Then, after menopause, the world opened up like a beautiful rose. Oh sure, I got sad at normal things, but a short cry, and I am fine. I feel normal now. But most of my life? You don’t want to know.

Last year, I was walking around the block with a woman my age, and she said the doctors ‘balanced’ her hormones…she suffered too. That cured it.

I can’t TELL you how ANGRY I was. All those years I suffered…for WHAT? Even though Doctor Peterson does attack the problem here, he makes no mention of hormones.

Hormones play a very critical role in the body, and yet, nobody much talks about them. Men OR women.

They never have. They don’t now. It’s like we are still in the dark ages.

I often wonder if this brand new awakening of gay men and woman is not due to something being put our water, or food to cause such an outbreak. I wouldn’t put it pass them. Estrogen is in all our food. They put it in to make the chickens and the cows grow faster, and bigger, and produce more milk.

It stays in the food.

Anyway, if you have a daughter that gets really depressed before her period, find a doctor that will take a hormonal test and treat her right away. Don’t let her go through a lifetime of emotional pain.

It could mean the difference between life and death.

Anyway, Please enjoy some good tips from my favorite psychologial thinker: Mr. Peterson.

Who, by the way, cries on video a lot.

Maybe HE should have his hormones checked out…

February 22, 2024 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , | Leave a comment