Joyanna Adams

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Nobody Knows There Are Two Kinds of Giving

Nobody Knows

I was wondering about something today, something I found that Bernie Sanders and some Christians I know have in common: The proclivity to want to give gifts.

You see, I was thinking about my very Christian friend…who right after I got home from the hospital, brought me two full bags of food: Homemade Lasonya, chicken salad, some sweets, an a greek salad. She was like an angel from heaven. I’m not a great cook to begin with, and cooking was going to be pretty hard that first week, since even walking to the front door was a major effort.

Those of you who have been through any operation knows what I am getting at.

“My angel!” I cried at her. “God bless you for brining me food!”

“I don’t want anything in return.” she insisted, and I told her she could count on me if she ever needed something. That night, I felt very fortunate to have such a great friend.

Now, I understand this is very common practice among Christians. They always bring you food, when someone dies, when you’re just home from the hospital…in fact, I once had a neighbor who never even spoke to me, bring me food once after my gall bladder surgery. I thought it was strange, when I always knew she really didn’t care for me otherwise.

But she went to church. Its pretty much what church people do.

Later on, that week, my very good Christian friend stopped by in a surprise visit. She caught me at my weakest moment. Yes, I had just returned from my therapist visit from hell and was crying uncontrollably from the pain. I had not cried at all throughout the whole ordeal. Not before the hospital, not in the hospital, not after the hospital. In fact, I was almost pain free before this therapist visit, but I think I was frustrated that I was put BACK to the beginning of my recovery with just one-hour long session, that I felt for the first time hopeless.

Well, my Christian friend came to the door, and I told her the physical pain I was feeling, and to my surprise she scolded me like a child. “Stop that!” She said. “Stop your crying!” She continued to berate me for breaking down, and shoved some salad in my hand and left with a huff.

I was not only hurt; I was simply puzzled. Is THIS the way Christians act? If I had come to her house and she had been crying I would have put my arms around her and been there as a friend. I was raised a Christian also, and besides that, I’m a typical woman.

Sorry, women are ALLOWED to cry once in a while. We are wired that way.

Also, this woman was a NURSE. I wondered how many patients in the hospitals where she served that she screamed at to stop crying? Was this something her mother told her to do when she cried as a child?

While I was thinking about this, I thought of Bernie Sanders…the great Santa Claus giveaway man of the hour. He is promising free college tuition, free medical care, free this and that, and no doubt, free trips to Epstein’s new vacation island complete with free sex for a week, along with a copy of his new book.

So, I’ve come up with a sort of theory. SOME Christians, (NOT ALL) will give…to make themselves feel good. Feel superior. Feel worthy to God. It’s not exactly YOU they care about, but just how much they like to make themselves feel good in the eyes of what they think their image of themselves should be.

I think many liberals have the same image of themselves. Why, we should give free everything to the world because hey! It makes THEM feel better! What wonderful people they are…don’t you see it?

Let’s put Meathead at the top of that list.

Actually, it’s a very selfish act. They don’t care how much money you and I have to fork out to pay the bills of millions of people on welfare. They don’t care how much the education of our children are put aside for the education of the poor masses from South America. They don’t care because it’s not THEIR money, and it’s not coming out of THEIR pockets. It just makes them look like such wonderful people in the eyes of the world. They don’t have to do a thing but say “We should help them all!”

There are people, like my husband and I, who will go out of their way to help out when asked. And we certainly don’t expect anything in return. We do it because, yes, it makes us feel good, but not because we want to score brownie points with Jesus, but because sometimes, empathy makes you know that sometimes people just need a helping hand. We are also animal lovers.

We purposely stay away from kennels because we’d want to save every poor animal in them.

True giving comes from the heart. That’s why, I suppose, I’m so weary of many Christians. So many of them swear that if you don’t go to their church, or ‘give’ to the homeless, or ‘give’ yourself over to Jesus, then you are damned for all eternity and not allowed to be in their superior club.

I hate to say this, but that’s not far an attitude from the Muslims who think that if you do not accept Allah as your God, you are an infidel.

Muslims just think it’s okay to cut your throat.

Christians leave the punishing to Jesus.

Don’t get me wrong. I am a GREAT supporter of Christainaity. I’ve read the Bible three times. Western Civilization came out of Christianity. We need more churches not less.

I just don’t think Jesus would come to my door and berate me for crying because I happened to be having a really bad day.

But my dear angel friend is not Jesus. So, because I was raised a Christian, I can forgive her.

And when she is in need, I will do the right thing: I will NOT make her suffer my cooking.

I’ll take her a teddy bear instead, and give her a great big hug.

It’s the least I can do.

There are two kinds of giving. One is just to make yourself feel better.

The other…well, it’s in the Bible.

All you have to do is look for it.

August 14, 2019 - Posted by | Religion | ,

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