Nobody’s Perfect: ME
Okay. This is going to be humbling, but not too long ago, things in my life got pretty disturbing.
My husband and I were just not getting along, so yeah, I fell in love with a man online. Realize this is very common as many of us spend hours on the computer. So, being myself, I decided to find out WHAT the hell was wrong with ME. After all, I always blame myself first no matter what. And that’s not good. It makes you wake up each day and …say, “It’s just another day in the life of myself.”
This man online made me feel alive. Pretty, wanted. Whereas after 32 years of marriage, we were at that standstill. No grandchildren, so we got dogs. I then realized that “Hey, he is so happy with those dogs, he’s has never ever shown me that much affection…maybe he never really loved me.”
He was running all over the house, happy as a little boy in a water park, playing Marco Polo with his buds.
Well, God jumps in when you need him doesn’t he? I got this book, which is the way I deal with any kind of pain: find answers…go read.
What Could He Be Thinking? How a Man’s Mind REALLY Works.” By Michael Gurian
WOW. EVERY MAN AND WOMAN IN THE WORLD...should read this book.
He explains right off the bat, how really different our brains are wired. And how hormones play such a big vital role in our relationships. How women get frustrated if men are not romantic, and how men really do bond with the sex act. How he is wired to compete, focus on ‘performance.
Here is a few examples from the book about the Performance Imperative: He claims that the biological male foundation is laid for a performance imperative:
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The workaholic man. The man competing constantly. The man pushing his child to be his or her best. The man who sacrifices his life for others based on a suprme principle he believes in. The man who believes he is worthless unless he feeds his family. The man who sits watching a sunset, but only for a moment, then moves back to his job. (Yes, testorsterone…it’s real.)
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First, I thought well yeah: Women still want the hero, the provider, the Prince that comes to save her. AND YET…that’s a high gate for most men to jump over, especially now. I remember my best friend Shelly and I went to Disneyland in California back in the 70’s. And we were sitting on the steps of Sleeping Beauty’s castle, and watching the crowds exit at midnight. We talked about how we had been sold the story of the man coming to rescue you by Disney. How it was a big lie. Looking back on it now, I realize that’s the trouble with a lot of the male/female relationships now…as females we were raised on these Disney themes. Life isn’t like that. Many times the man just has too much on his mind to remember, doesn’t mean he does not love you…it’s just he is wired to keep his own stress from the day from not spilling over. Now the men play video games…go right pass the wives, and take out the day’s stress…it works.
Recently, I watched a video on Youtube, where Elon’s Musk’s first wife talked about how they lost their first son to CIDs. And she wanted to talk about it and he didn’t. What SHE didn’t know is that he dare not talk about it. He had companies to run. Men’s brains are designed NOT to talk about such a painful event. Women on the other hand MUST. She didn’t know his brain. He was suffering just as much as she was, but to talk about it would have destroyed him. She should have talked about it to a girlfriend or mother, or anybody but him. Emotions are not registered well in a man’s brain. They are just not wired for it. This book explains the male’s brain in scientific terms…and how hormones play a big part, and how the woman’s brains are always lit up.
WE ARE SO DIFFERENT.
The feminist movement has done more to damaged so many things that are now called woke. And that was a political movement DONE to destroy the family. And that’s another blog.
I just gave you jsut a taste of the book. It devles deeply into the facts of our physical differences, facts that cannot be ignored. And yet, they are.
In conclusion, I have been thinking all along that my husband didn’t love me. After reading this book, I can’t blame it all on him. Maybe I didn’t love him? Maybe this man I met online was a wakeup call to reexamining my life…and trying to understand..why both men and woman should try to understand the real reason’s we can’t seem to live up to each other’s expectations. And he goes into great detail.
So, I’m sorry that at my age, I didn’t read this book sooner. Many couples figure this stuff out, and live until “death do they part.” I didn’t. I have just been on cruise control. Not really living.
I’m just sad that I didn’t wake up to these facts earlier, back when Shelly and I were sitting on the steps of Disney’s Castle.
But then again…fairy tales sometimes do come true. Men have porn, women have fairy tales of romance…maybe that’s what keeps us all being able to stand each other.
Or not. (Maybe we just need to all chill.) And remember…mother nature knows best.
After all, want to see what a REAL man can do? (See below)
Ladies…watch and enjoy. When you can watch a REAL man build this world…love him for that. Because baby, it will make the world all that much better. And remember, he is also doing it for you. Be proud to be a woman. It’s okay to feel those emotions, but remember…mother nature is still here…no matter what woke agenda they are pushing on us all.
Gene Simmons–Gives his Opinions to Women
Nobody Flashes
This is a fun watch, because Gene ALWAYS has opinions. What’s even funnier is that for years he didn’t marry his long time mate Shannon, so that he didn’t have to be faithful, and then, when he started hitting the old age, and the young girls didn’t find him appealing anymore, he decided to get married…on TV so that he would make some money.
The advice he gives, he gives from his own perspective that men just think about themselves, the point that feminists have been making for years. Hillary should JUMP on this.
The real problem with women, which Gene forgets, is while men’s hormones rage, so do women’s. The urge to have a child is overbearing, and as a species, it really IS better and healthier to have children when the women is younger….life is just not that easily managed.
I don’t know what women he is talking to here, I am assuming white women, who are already doing just that: NOT having mates and children, and when they do, the government is supporting them.
He seems to give the whole male race a pass on ever growing up.
What is pretty weird about Gene’s opinion’s, is that while it’s good advice and women at this point in time should always earn her own money, because our culture has pretty much thrown marriage as an institution out the window (Unless of course, you are gay)—–Gene is actually suggesting, in his own way to women: use men like men use you.
Realistic? Or just plan stupid? Or is that exactly what’s happening?
What do YOU think?
In Her Own Words: Michelle is Smarter than Obama
Nobody Wonders
Out of all the first ladies in my lifetime, my favorite was Laura Bush. I admired her for the image that she always presented. The Image, was fitting for the United States. But, that’s about it. I must admit, after the Bushes left office, they have done all the politically correct, ‘globalization” politics that you would expect of a Jimmy Carter or a Bill Clinton.
They continue to try to make us believe that global policies, and pumping US tax dollars into the world, are good for the United States— but then–I recall that the Bush family ranch is sitting on the largest fresh water aqueduct in South America, and the utopian dream of politicians putting America FIRST, comes crashing down.
When the water war comes, the Bushes will be richer than King Saud.
Reminded of that–Barbara Bush, just looks like a very smart woman.
But, it IS all about the “world” isn’t it? Both the Obama’s and the Bushes are on the same global page of “We must reform the rest of the world, and we will do it with your money!”
The elite theme being pushed this week is AFRICA! America to the rescue! (Never mind China is already there.)
In this quote below, Michelle Obama let out the typical feminist exclamation: Women ARE superior to men. (We must help them too.)
In a conversation with former First Lady Laura Bush at the U.S Africa Leaders Summit in Washington D.C. , Michelle Obama explained that as First Lady it was important to remember to use the position to highlight their personal interests:
“We can’t waste this spotlight, it is temporary and life is short and change is needed and women are smarter than men. And the men can’t complain because you’re outnumbered today,” she said as the audience laughed.
Nobody Says: There is absolutely no proof ANYWHERE that women are smarter than men. (Some women, but…on a curve…let’s not go there.)
That’s like saying the moon is superior to the sun. You can say it till you’re white in the face Michelle, and it won’t change.
There is so much wrong with that statement, (even if said in jest) that you have to wonder: Did Michelle Obama not know that MORE women graduate from universities than men? Why does she keep acting as if women are not getting opportunities when the facts prove the opposite?
(As if we don’t know that answer.)
According to The Department of Education, women are now earning the majority of college degrees in the US, with approximately 140 women graduating from college for every 100 men.
The proof that men are smarter is in that fact alone: Most of them are not stupid enough to waste their money on an inferior product, or are too busy building the rest of the world. Not to mention, the government is stacking the cards against them–the goal is to have the state raise the children. Men have to become obsolete for the state to take over complete control.
Obviously the Obama’s like to leave out facts.
Nobody Wonders if the New World Order is to have women run the world, when in fact, it will still be the men making the decisions in the background.
As for the Bushes dream of liberating women from Islam? Sweet, but not at all realistic.
Many men lost their lives for that utopian dream, and look what it got them. Maybe its time the men of Islam fight to free their own women.
As if.
Nobody Wonders: Is this dream of equality to Muslim women really about changing the world?—-Or is it just about the good feeling the elites get from saying it?
Feminism: Be Careful What You Wish For Girls—- You Just Might Get It.
Nobody’s Opinion
Not too long ago, I use to post on a men’s site, called MensNewsDaily. It was a place where divorced men could rant about their divorces. I have to admit— the anger, the frustration, the hatred that some of these men had for their ex-wives were confusing to me, mainly because, most of these men had not gotten over the betrayals or the pain. And some of them had been divorced over five years.
That fact amazed me. They told me stories about women that I just couldn’t understand. These women took all their money, and left town. My problem was—(stupid me) I was comparing these women to myself. I thought, since I had gone through a painful divorced, and moved on, why couldn’t they? I did not get anything out of my first husband. Not a thing. He had a better lawyer, who delayed the whole thing for years, and even though my first husband was ordered to pay child support, and health insurance, he did neither. I didn’t have the money to take him back to court, and he knew it.
The way I looked at it, I had the biggest treasure of all: my son.
So, I bucked up, supported us the best I could (with the help of my parents, bless their souls) and went on with my life. The logical thing to do was to forget the past, put the pain behind me, and move on with life because…life is short.
So, why couldn’t these guys? ARE the women of today really that bad?
Sadly, I’m finding out….yes. “Feminism” has turned too many women into a new set of idiotic sharks.
Just last night, I put some comments on a feminist blog. It was by a young woman who went on and on about all the ‘sexism’ in life and patriarchy, and unfairness, and according to her, that was life’s worst problem.
(Wait till she has to worry about kids.)
So, innocently enough, I wrote a few lines and said: Gee, my mother ran her own company, I worked for years in bands with all men, I never saw this “sexism” –give me some examples.
Of course she didn’t…she lashed into me, accusing me of not liking sex, or gays, or didn’t I know there is a war on women?
No…sorry. What war? I don’t like sex? I didn’t even TALK about gays…where the heck did she get all this from? Like the Fed’s money, it came out of thin air.
The last few years, it has started to dawn on me that YES…the young girls of today are simply not thinking. (I’m talking many, not all understand) They have bought into the feminist BS philosophy hook, line and sinker. The teachers union have raised, not only a generation of uneducated kids, but generations of women with no common sense whatsoever.
God, did Gloria Steinem mess up a good thing. Both my mother and I had never even given what we wanted to do a second thought.
Nowadays, the women want, (like the blacks) affirmative action. All men should bow, because all men are bad. This is the propaganda.
As I read on, this girl claimed she really liked men. Well, I thought…there’s hope there I guess., so I kept writing…
I tried to tell her that like her, I didn’t realize that feminism was a well thought- out political propaganda agenda, until later. That feminism is being used to get all women in the workforce, their kids in state schools, where they can introduce socialism, then soft communism, and it’s not a pretty end.
But she was going to a university, where being a ‘feminist’ is a must and all the rage.
The angriest she got in her rant, was when she talked about her mother. No doubt, her mother was a feminist, because her mother left dad with the child to raise. Why…it was just sex. Her mother was a feminist. I don’t think she even realizes she is being like her mother.
Do you see the dichotomy here?
This woman ranted about her life as being wonderful because she could have FREE sex, just like a guy,(unlike her mother, she would probably just abort) but she wasn’t getting the ‘respect’ that a man gets, and that’s ‘sexist.’
It’s the same argument I heard back in the sixties, and it makes me laugh. You can’t be Miley Cyrus and expect ‘respect’ from men. Even a man doing that would get no respect. She said Miley Cyrus was art.
Okay, now we are getting into the absurd. You can call Miley Cyrus a lot of things, but not art.
And what was Obama’s big beef to women? Why, they shouldn’t have to pay for contraceptives…and so he made the rest of us pay for their pills AND their abortions. All these strong women…gee. They need to be taken care of.
Where is their pride?
Hell, I would have been insulted as a person if somebody insinuated that I couldn’t pay for my own contraceptives, but not today’s feminist…oh no. What wimps. They want to be equal? Well then, pay for your own pills, girls. What don’t you get about equality? You want to be respected and be equal?
If you can’t pay your own bills, and your own pills, you are …well, what are you?
Dependent.
What did all that free sex get women? A lower paycheck for one thing. (and millions of abortions) The very things that the women’s movement was supposed to fix, have been multiplied ten-fold. More women are portrayed as sex objects in our movies, the porn industry, the music industry, than ever before. Oh…and no-fault divorce. Great gains gals.
And don’t call them sluts! No! They now have EQUAL sex now! Your body is your own, and therefore, you can raise that child by yourself! You are….liberated! Free at last girls! (Never mind the horrific damage it does to the kids.)
Newsflash: Fathers are a GOOD thing.
I wrote that men ‘built’ the world, and so, she explained how I left out all the women who were scientists….etc, etc….adding onto my plain fact. As IF by saying that men built the world I had muttered some kind of blasphemy. And so I said, I meant every word. Men…built the world. The road, the skyscrapers, roads, cars, my snow blower, the Statue of Liberty……..I’m forever grateful to those guys! I LOVE a good sewer system! God, I just want to kiss them all. (Okay, maybe not all of them.) I’m SO thankful.
What don’t women get? Can’t they stop and think for just one minute? Where in the world would they be without men?
Digging holes in the sand, to cook in. (Thank you Thomas Edison. I love you! I love electricity!)
Any woman who has had a baby, can see from the beginning, boys and girls are different. From the time they are born. That doesn’t mean women can’t be as smart as men, it just means we are different.
Good lord, why is everybody making such a big deal out of nothing?
For the same reason they make a big deal about another very historical normal act of nature–climate change: Control.
Our government knows how to keep the nation divided:. Men VS women, black vs. white, America Vs. the world, Atheist vs. religious, gays vs. straights….and they have good reason to. IF we ever united as a people they would be in REAL trouble.
Today I talked to a very smart man, who went on an angry rant about women. It almost brought tears to my eyes: Every woman he dates, expects the WORLD…and he is just not perfect. That utopia the feminists want…does not exist, and none of the women he dates know this. They all take his money, and leave. He wants so much to find a woman to love, but he just can’t.
No man is perfect. But the young girls today demands to be the top dog. That man has to be perfect, or else they are gone. They don’t need men anymore. Sex, is sex. There is no partnership between a man and a woman anymore.
Not a good sign for the species, and it’s one of the reasons Western Civilization is going by the wayside: We did not populate our nations, and feminism had a lot to do with that.
So Europe brings in the Muslims, and the US brings in the Hispanics in order to survive. Yes, this “I can live without a man” stuff has hurt the best of us all.
While Putin is encouraging marriage to repopulate his country for SURVIVAL…what are WE doing? We are promoting…homosexuality. 
My mother’s generation, men and woman were so much more mature. Marriage was a team effort. But this new generation of women…they have been completely subdued with BS Feminist 101. The leftist have made children of them all.
Children. Which is exactly the plan. A nation full of emotional retarded, dumb-downed and stupid dependent children.
I told her that if Hillary is voted in to be the next President by the feminists, the men vs. women argument is not going to matter. because we will all become “comrades.”
Women will finally be ‘equal’ to men. In fact, when war comes, (And it always does) you will be slaughtered right along with the men, or haven’t you figured that out yet?
Be careful what you wish for girls, you might just get it.
About
I am a nobody. If the different classes of America were color-coded, I would be in the yucky brown, one rung up from the bottom. I grew up in Naples, Florida and live near the Mississippi River now with my husband and two dogs. I am part of the slowly disappearing middle-class. I was a musician most of my life: drummer/singer/keyboards—but I retired before the plastic surgery flu hit. I have no degrees, which could be a good thing…depending on how you view our educational system. I do have three patents…but that really doesn’t make me a somebody. The one thing that is constant in my life is my OPINIONS, which i have more than perhaps even Carl Sagan could have imagined…mostly political. (yes…my ancestors were crabby buggers)
Hopefully other nobody’s will put their opinions on my site. But, if you happen to be a somebody, you’re more than welcomed to help out.
It’s my Nobody Opinion that Nobody’s Perfect, and Nobody Cares, that Nobody Knows why Nobody Wins, and when that happens, Nobody Wonders, why Nobody Flashes, why Nobody’s Fooled, but then Nobody remembers that Nobody ALWAYS Reports the truth.
You can email me at joyanna_adams@yahoo.com
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