Joyanna Adams

Nobody's Opinion

Nobody Wins in Divorce

Nobody Wins

Divorce is an ugly word. There are not many people living in the United States who do not know someone who is divorced, or have been divorced themselves. Divorce is like labor. A woman can’t explain how painful labor is to a man, and nobody can really explain how painful divorce is…you just have to experience it to know. And most who go through it, never want to do it again.divorce 2

So, if you have never been divorced, consider yourself blessed, because after the “sexual revolution” it was all the rage.   It almost seemed a backlash to the ‘feminist revolution’, in which woman thought that they were coming up into the world as equals, only to find that the lawyers saved the men with “No-fault” divorce. The men said, “ want to be equal! Okay then, you’re on your own!” That was the poor girl.

The rich girl got rich lawyers, and the men lost everything. Nobody won but the lawyers.

There were millions of women left with kids to raise, and men running from child support, like a rabbit runs from a dog. . And how can you blame the men? When all of a sudden, was all about the “woman’s body” and her choice to abort or not. A man, had no say.

I have often wondered if the feminist movement didn’t help jump start the crazy “welfare” system because men were not going to get married anymore…why should they? With morality out the door, everyone was getting sex for ‘free.’  And then you had the drugs.

And the women could have free sex too, one night stands….and gee..isn’t it all great?

Except, it wasn’t. Milionis of kids became fatherless. And all kinds of bullshit crap about how woman can raise kids on their own was put out, and women who were tired of going night after night looking for love in Disco’s just came out feeling empty. Decency, went out the window with the old whiskey bottle.Divorce

Bill O’Reilly has been on a rant lately in which he claims the main problems in the black community come from the babes born out of wedlock. And he’s right. The blacks don’t even bother getting married. No fathers. No jobs. These boys are ANGRY, some of them don’t even know who their fathers are.

But, back to divorce:

Divorce leaves a scar on some so deep, you just best forget it. I remember a day in the life, after my divorce, when I  watched my young six- year- old son, sitting at the front window, his little leather jacket on, his suitcase by his feet, eagerly waiting…waiting for his father to come and pick him up as promised…and then, eleven hours later, the “father’ called and saying..”Uh..I can’t make it today.”

My son, never gave up hope. That is a scar I could not erase, and it was only one of many. That is a day I grew up. He had joint custody, and he always threatened me, because he had more money.  I told him….”Take me to court, you will not ever do that again.”

He didn’t. He disappeared.

Fortunatly, my son made up for not having a dad by making lots of friends. Our house was always filled with all his buddies. We had parties, and I watched his friends grow up…loved them, took them everywhere…camping, 4th of July picnics, baseball games, bowling, hockey… for most of my life my son and his friends WERE my life. For fourteen years I was a single parent. I loved all his friends, and was happy he had so many. And just the other day, my son told me that one of his friends was getting a divorce.

“I can’t believe it! Bob and Mary (fake names NSA) have been going together since high school! And what’s worse, is that she left him, for a woman.” he said.

Yes, Mary has now decided she is a lesbian…after two kids. Bob is devastated, and I’m glad I don’t have to watch those kids suffer. One time was enough for me.

After my divorce, I never though I’d find anyone. But then, one day a very quiet man came into my life, and refused to let me go anywhere else.  It was almost like a stealth attack, which makes sense because he was a Navy Seal. (LOL) I never knew what hit me, but I find, now after 20 years, I am glad he did. A good marriage is…just the best thing. Life is much too hard to go through it alone.

Bill O’Reilly is right. We need to get the culture back to marriages, and get the blacks back to ‘getting’ married. And you know what? I think the pendulum is going to come about, simply because too many children need fathers.divorce 3

The women’s movement did more harm than anyone can possibly imagine. Sure, it had a few good points…but they threw the bathwater out with the baby.

People are going to get tired of Wieners.

Having said that…this blog is done, (Thanks for letting me rant.)

July 31, 2013 Posted by | American Culture, Uncategorized | , , | 1 Comment

Nobody’s Fool: Reverend Owens

Nobody’s Fool

Finally…SOMEBODY got the guts to stand up to Obama on the basis of their own faith. Nobody Thinks the Reverend Owens deserves applause for standing up for his convictions. Marriage between a man and a woman has been in all religions since they were formed, and now, politicians, are trying to force every religious person into excepting that which their own faith does not accept.

That’s not freedom of religion, that’s tyranny. How would the ‘gays’ like it if the state told them they had to “not be gay” anymore? It’s a matter of freedom. That’s basically what it comes down to…”Don’t be a Christian.”

And watch the CNN reporter try to put her own bias into it. Is it any wonder CNN is losing the ratings battle?


August 2, 2012 Posted by | Black History, Race | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Nobody’s Perfect: Marriage, Divorce, Electrocution…

Nobody’s Perfect

This week, we have the subject of matrimony and love: couples getting married, couples getting divorced, couples getting electrocuted….

First we have Lord Paul McCartney, who just got married to a very lovely and very rich woman named Nancy Shevell. Nobody Thinks that was a smart move. The last woman he married couldn’t get enough of his money. Let’s hope this one works out for him.

You have to give the man a lot of credit…after the awful mess his last marriage caused him, to dive in at his age and try again, shows he believes in the institution.  And for that, I give him a big round of applause.

Hopefully this time, they both signed pre-nups.

Paul looked years younger on his wedding day. I’m glad he is dying his hair. For a vegetarian, that must have been a hard decision, because you know, all those chemicals could melt into his brain and cause his liver to fail because he doesn’t eat meat. (Nobody made that up.)

And any woman who loves gardenias in my book, shows class. They are MY favorite flower.

They looked like the perfect couple, unlike this next couple.

Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher.



Now……. I don’t mean to criticize anyone’s choice in men, (Wait…of course I do, it’s too much fun!) but when Demi divorced Bruce Willis and married Ashton Kutcher I thought she had some kind of problem—NOT because he was so much younger than her, but because he seemed like such a …what’s the words? College boy.

Demi also collects Barbie dolls and has a house just to show them all off. So you have to wonder…what did they have in common? Nobody Wonders  if they will all go on their fabulous vacations after the divorce? Bruce, Ashton, Demi and her new future boyfriend.

Do we care?

No, we don’t, but Nobody Cares about the next couple from Pennsylvania: Joseph Russell and April Carter.

Why? Because THEY hold the common nobodies card of love for the future.

Police say a western Pennsylvania couple desperate for money to pay for their wedding netted just $18 for the stolen copper wire they cut from more than a dozen utility poles. North Sewickley police say 23-year-old Joseph Russell and 24-year-old April Cater cut down the wires on August 9, four days before their wedding. Russell says he was desperate for money because he’d just lost his job and lost a $1,000 deposit after his reception hall abruptly closed down.

That’s got to be love. I don’t care how much Paul and Nancy think they might love each other, I doubt if he would EVER climb a pole and steal copper wire just to marry her, and for good reason too. Another couple that were not so lucky climbed up a pole and paid for it.

A man died as he and a female partner tried to steal copper wire from an electrical vault in South Gate on Saturday afternoon, police said. The woman tried to pull him away from the vault when it caught fire and exploded, but the electricity traveled through her body and she received severe burns. Two small children were found in a truck 15 feet from the accident but were not injured.

There you go…desperate times call for desperate measures. Leave the kids in the car.

What did we learn from these three mistakes?

1. Don’t marry the first amputee that comes along after your wife dies.

2. Don’t marry the first young and sexy man who beds you right after your painful divorce.

3. If you don’t have enough money for a wedding, don’t climb up a pole and steal copper wiring…go on Oprah and beg for money.

What’s that you say? Oprah doesn’t have a show anymore? Well, just wait. She coming back because her cable show is losing money big time.

Anyway, maybe Lord Paul or Demi Moore will see you on the show, and send you the money you need.

At least you’ll be alive to enjoy it.


October 10, 2011 Posted by | British, Entertainers, marriage | , , , , | 2 Comments


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