Nobody’s Perfect: ME
Okay. This is going to be humbling, but not too long ago, things in my life got pretty disturbing.
My husband and I were just not getting along, so yeah, I fell in love with a man online. Realize this is very common as many of us spend hours on the computer. So, being myself, I decided to find out WHAT the hell was wrong with ME. After all, I always blame myself first no matter what. And that’s not good. It makes you wake up each day and …say, “It’s just another day in the life of myself.”
This man online made me feel alive. Pretty, wanted. Whereas after 32 years of marriage, we were at that standstill. No grandchildren, so we got dogs. I then realized that “Hey, he is so happy with those dogs, he’s has never ever shown me that much affection…maybe he never really loved me.”
He was running all over the house, happy as a little boy in a water park, playing Marco Polo with his buds.
Well, God jumps in when you need him doesn’t he? I got this book, which is the way I deal with any kind of pain: find answers…go read.
What Could He Be Thinking? How a Man’s Mind REALLY Works.” By Michael Gurian
WOW. EVERY MAN AND WOMAN IN THE WORLD...should read this book.
He explains right off the bat, how really different our brains are wired. And how hormones play such a big vital role in our relationships. How women get frustrated if men are not romantic, and how men really do bond with the sex act. How he is wired to compete, focus on ‘performance.
Here is a few examples from the book about the Performance Imperative: He claims that the biological male foundation is laid for a performance imperative:
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The workaholic man. The man competing constantly. The man pushing his child to be his or her best. The man who sacrifices his life for others based on a suprme principle he believes in. The man who believes he is worthless unless he feeds his family. The man who sits watching a sunset, but only for a moment, then moves back to his job. (Yes, testorsterone…it’s real.)
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First, I thought well yeah: Women still want the hero, the provider, the Prince that comes to save her. AND YET…that’s a high gate for most men to jump over, especially now. I remember my best friend Shelly and I went to Disneyland in California back in the 70’s. And we were sitting on the steps of Sleeping Beauty’s castle, and watching the crowds exit at midnight. We talked about how we had been sold the story of the man coming to rescue you by Disney. How it was a big lie. Looking back on it now, I realize that’s the trouble with a lot of the male/female relationships now…as females we were raised on these Disney themes. Life isn’t like that. Many times the man just has too much on his mind to remember, doesn’t mean he does not love you…it’s just he is wired to keep his own stress from the day from not spilling over. Now the men play video games…go right pass the wives, and take out the day’s stress…it works.
Recently, I watched a video on Youtube, where Elon’s Musk’s first wife talked about how they lost their first son to CIDs. And she wanted to talk about it and he didn’t. What SHE didn’t know is that he dare not talk about it. He had companies to run. Men’s brains are designed NOT to talk about such a painful event. Women on the other hand MUST. She didn’t know his brain. He was suffering just as much as she was, but to talk about it would have destroyed him. She should have talked about it to a girlfriend or mother, or anybody but him. Emotions are not registered well in a man’s brain. They are just not wired for it. This book explains the male’s brain in scientific terms…and how hormones play a big part, and how the woman’s brains are always lit up.
WE ARE SO DIFFERENT.
The feminist movement has done more to damaged so many things that are now called woke. And that was a political movement DONE to destroy the family. And that’s another blog.
I just gave you jsut a taste of the book. It devles deeply into the facts of our physical differences, facts that cannot be ignored. And yet, they are.
In conclusion, I have been thinking all along that my husband didn’t love me. After reading this book, I can’t blame it all on him. Maybe I didn’t love him? Maybe this man I met online was a wakeup call to reexamining my life…and trying to understand..why both men and woman should try to understand the real reason’s we can’t seem to live up to each other’s expectations. And he goes into great detail.
So, I’m sorry that at my age, I didn’t read this book sooner. Many couples figure this stuff out, and live until “death do they part.” I didn’t. I have just been on cruise control. Not really living.
I’m just sad that I didn’t wake up to these facts earlier, back when Shelly and I were sitting on the steps of Disney’s Castle.
But then again…fairy tales sometimes do come true. Men have porn, women have fairy tales of romance…maybe that’s what keeps us all being able to stand each other.
Or not. (Maybe we just need to all chill.) And remember…mother nature knows best.
After all, want to see what a REAL man can do? (See below)
Ladies…watch and enjoy. When you can watch a REAL man build this world…love him for that. Because baby, it will make the world all that much better. And remember, he is also doing it for you. Be proud to be a woman. It’s okay to feel those emotions, but remember…mother nature is still here…no matter what woke agenda they are pushing on us all.
Nobody Remembers Florence Nightengale
Nobody Remembers
“How very little can be done under the spirit of fear” Florence Nightengale
Everybody was watching the retiring Pope today, hoping into his helicopter, and tweeting the millions below him goodbye. His legacy is evidently, not a good one, but then again, the Catholic Church has been full of corruption almost since its beginning. (That’s what happens when you put one god at the top.)
But—while the Pope leaves visions of just a nice old guy going to rest in some nice garden somewhere, I couldn’t help thinking–what don’t we know about him? After all, I found out something today that I never knew about Florence Nightingale.
From “The Lady Tasting Tea”
Florence Nightingale a legendary English Victorian figure was a terror to the members of Parliament and the British army generals whom she confronted. There is a tendency to think of her simply as the founder of the nursing profession, a gentle, self-sacrificing giver of mercy. But the real Florence Nightingale was a woman with missions. She was also a self-educated statistician. One of Nightingale’s missions was to force the British army to maintain filed hospitals and supply nursing and medical care to soldiers in the field. To support her position, she plowed though piles of data from the army files. Then she appeared before a royal commission with a remarkable series of graphs. In them she showed how most of the deaths in the British army during the Crimean War were due to illnesses contracted outside the field of battle or that occurred long after action as a result of wounds suffered in battle but left unattended. She invented the pie chart as a means of displaying her message. When she tired of fighting the obtuse seemingly ignorant army generals she would retreat to the village of Evington.
So, think about that next time you see a pie chart.
Who knew? Not me.
There has always been a belief that men are better at math than women. According to this book, (The Lady Tasting Tea- How Statistics Revolutionized Science in the Twentieth Century by David Salsburg) women have always played a very strong role in statistical sciences.
The Statistical Laboratory and Department of Statistics at Ames, Iowa became one of the most important centers of statistical research in the world. Lots of stuff was delegated to woman, women could be more docile and patient so went the belief and could be depended upon more than men to check and recheck the accuracy of their calculations. A typical picture of the Galton Biometrical Laboratory under Karl Pearson would have Pearson and several men walking around looking at output from the computers or discussing deep mathematical ideas, while all about them rows of women were computing.
So today, Nobody Remembers Florence Nightingale, and the women who did the computing. We need MORE ladies getting into math and less into Beyoncé, don’t you think?
Ann Coulter Proves that THE DOCTORS are not Scientists
Nobody Wins
Recently, a brand new program to ‘educate’ Americans is gaining popularity here. It’s called The Doctors and this year the original four doctors have added a few more women…just what they DIDN’T need.
From left to right you have: A pediatrician, Jim Sears, a Dr. of psychology, Wendy Walsh, E.R. physician, Travis Stork, a ‘wellness expert’ Julian Michaels, OB/GYN Lisa Masterson, and plastic surgeon, Dr. Drew Ordon. They are here to save you, because they are experts.
This week they are talking about “sex.” And the guys, like all smart men everywhere, kept completely quiet. The women took off on their biggest tantrum ..single motherhood. And they went against the conservative heroine of wit, Ann Coulter— who has never backed down from a good fight.
Of course, that’s why they had her on…to fight.
The women “doctors” which consist of a gynecologist, a “wellness expert” and a psychiatrist all came from the same school: single mothers can raise a child and be a father, no questions asked.
Ann’s position: No way can mothers be fathers, period.
Someone with an online Social Work Degree could attest to that.
Whoa…do not say that to women who have got degrees, are successful, and do not even want to wait around for some ‘father’. Jillian Michaels, was especially adamant that she had more money, more time, more love than many of the dysfunctional couples out there. She did NOT need a man. The new career women want that child, like they want those new shoes, and they can give it all they want they say. They have been brainwashed: women can have it all.
Idiots.
Now…the three men on the panel..said…nothing. Not a word. Not that the women would have let them talk. So, either they were told to shut up and let the feminist agenda of women raising babies on their own continue because they are making millions, and it’s the state’s agenda, OR…they secretly want to bed one or two of these beauties and don’t want to spoil their chances. Either way, THIS is why things won’t change. When good men say nothing. Where’s the TV program where men can say, “Hey, no woman is going to do what I can do?”
The real reason all these ladies threw such a hussy fit, (at least in Jullian’s case) is because they secretly WANT a man but can’t find one, and for good reason. So, they have to say, “well women can do it all” just to make themselves feel better.
Ann was right. Statics show that 90 percent of jails are filled with men from single moms. As she said, it’s like some smokers can say “I never got lung cancer!” but most lung cancer is caused by smoking.
The other women never acknowledged Ann’s superior logic. BUT…the bachelor man (Travis) ended the fight and thanked Ann in such a way, that it was clear to this nobody, AND to Ann, that he was on her side.
Too bad he didn’t say it.
Wuss.
And to make matters worse, at the end of the show, Travis told us all about the endorphins caused in our brains from great sex, while smiling big about how much HE likes sex, and it’s just too bad, that he didn’t turn to all those empty womb feminist doctors, whose hormones were screaming night and day for a pregnancy—That: It’s okay girls…you feel bad because your hormones are controlling your brain. Let me help you out….the doc is in.
Nobody Wins when the feminists rule, and The DOCTORS keep silent.
Makes you really wonder…whatever they are teaching the doctors now, it sure isn’t how to use their own common sense.
Jane Fonda Wants You Back!
There she was on Charlie Rose: Lady Jane Seymour Fonda, better known as the woman who started out as a sex symbol, then actress…turned into a communist anti-war activist, then “feminist,” then exercise guru, and now, she is out trying to get everyone to forget about what she did as a young woman, and well…Let her put all her exercise tapes and books on QVC. You see, too many people protested about her being on the channel, and they took her off.
Jane might be a lot of things but, she knows business. She is apologizing right and left about her stupid activities during the war, and also emphasizing that she is a Christian. Smart PR. And how did she become a “Christian?”, Charlie asked, as if he was asking how in the world she got leprosy.
She went to a lot of political activities and talked to Jimmy Carter, she said.
Yeah—- there’s her problem right there. Jane is ALWAYS talking to the wrong people.
During the 1960s Fonda engaged in political activism in support of the Civil Rights Movement and in opposition to the Vietnam war. Fonda’s visits to France brought her into sympathetic contact with what she later characterized as “small-c communism”: Leftist French intellectuals who were opposed to war.
(Tell me…does communism come in different c cup sizes?)
While watching her banter with Charlie, I thought: she’s good. She apologized profusely about the horrible things she did during the Vietnam war…sitting on that cannon..aimed at our boys. Heck, even I bought her remorse. But tonight I have to remember…Jane Fonda is one of the best actresses on the planet.
Fonda:
The photo exists, delivering its message regardless of what I was doing or feeling. I carry this heavy in my heart. I have apologized numerous times for any pain I may have caused servicemen and their families because of this photograph. It was never my intention to cause harm .
The question is: does she really mean it? Nobody Thinks so, but it’s a bit too late.
And just look at her. At 73, she looks almost a young 45, due to picking the right plastic surgeons. Nobody thinks she looks better than she ever has. (FACE) Money has it’s perks.
Many people would say that poor Jane just couldn’t help turning out as she did. Born into a very liberal Hollywood family, and then: her mother committing suicide when she was 12. Yeah, rich or poor, that’s rough. But did she have to take it out on us?
Jane has apologize for causing so much heartache during a time when thousands of men were sent to Vietnam— many to die. Did she think they WANTED to be there? Sure, we all felt the war was insane, and we hated it, and we all thought we should not even be there, but Hanoi Jane took it a step further.
According to Wikipedia:
Fonda said she had no regrets about the broadcasts she made on Radio Hanoi, something she asked the North Vietnamese to do.
But Jane wasn’t the only one doing damage: John Kerry comes to mind, and he’s still in the Senate.
Nobody Thinks, not only was she doing it for her own compassionate reasons, she was just plain stupid, as many leftist/ liberals are. They want to save the world, to make themselves feel better. And it’s hard to believe that she was that naive to NOT know she was hurting the boys in the field, but her feelings were much more important.
“See what a good person I am?” It’s as if an invisible mommy is lying on their shoulder. It’s as if these people fly high in their planes over the world, and never come down to really see it. They have no clue. No kind of injustice has ever happened to them I guess. I don’t know. What makes these people think like they do?
After the war, Jane made the exercise videos and life went on. She had a good product and if people had not bought her tapes due to her past, she would have never become the millionaire that she is.
But, the war was not her only “mistake.” She has been right up there with every feminist movement ever given a stage. She demonstrated with Women in Black against Israel’s occupation of the West Bank and Gaza Strip.
Has Jane said a word about the poor treatment of the billions of Muslim woman who live is slavery? Has she done a protest in front of a Mosque?
I don’t know. You tell me. The “feminists” from the sixties now just want to know if they have the right vibrator, and that’s in Jane’s new book too.
Ted Turner left her for a younger woman. She said he couldn’t take her “religion.” Whatever. She was just dumped for a newer model, something that all feminists were always complaining about, and any woman worth her salt would have damned the action: but not Jane. She learned a lot from Ted, she said: Why, he could look up in the air and recognize a red falcon!
(Okay, maybe she is dense.)
But, with Charlie gushing over her every breathe, she looked to me to be wanting the very thing every single feminist in the world tries to act like she doesn’t want: adoration. Especially from men. Jane Fonda, wants to be the sexy woman, at 73, that she always wanted to be…you see, she always thought of herself as an ugly duckling, and I see nothing wrong with that. I only wish she’d admit it.
You have to admit one thing…she stuck to her liberal views and has never wavered, and I am going to read her new book, because, I know NOTHING about vibrators, or why feminist are such terrible mothers.
And Jane is going to tell me.
Jane Fonda, is Nobody’s Fool. Whatever you many think of her politics, that woman does one thing extremly well: she makes money. Good for her.
Nobody Flashes: FEMEN Turn Up The Heat…uh…cold..uh..
Nobody Flashes: From CNN–
Wow…get your goggles out guys…the women in the Ukraine are stripping just for YOU!
They want to be noticed as more than sex symbols, so, what do they do? They do just what every man in the world wants them to do, put on lovely underwear and pretty flowers in their hair and then..strip naked!
That’ll show those male chauvinists!
Whole countries will be moved!
And as an added bonus…it’s COLD! Seven degrees BELOW Zero! (applaud here men, show some appreciation.)
These young beauties not only are cold, wet, and by the looks of them..hungry— they dislike men so much— they don’t just stand there…they say rude things like—well here an example said in front of the Ukraine Parliament building—
•“This cabinet’s like a male toilet, ” the activists scream, holding water bottles to their groins as though they’re men in a urinal.“What we do is we get Ukrainian and international coverage and it shows that the authorities are scared of seeing bare breasts,” Gutsol says. “And the fact that they are trying to arrest us and not let us undress now proves it.”
Gutsol somehow missed the train to Doctor Zavago.
The group, of which so far there are 300 strong, call themselves FEMEN. They want to get women elected. Let’s hope they keep the young and pretty ones out front.
Anyone who came from the sixties remembers the feminist women over here burning bras.
Those women single-handedly hatched Larry Flynn.
Our feminists movement gave us such representatives as Hillary the Hun, Nancy the Stun, and Boxer Botox—I’m just saying. Be careful what you wish for girls.
Someday, all these girls are going to be pregnant, and wondering what happened to their grand protests.
Let’s not tell em’.
About
I am a nobody. If the different classes of America were color-coded, I would be in the yucky brown, one rung up from the bottom. I grew up in Naples, Florida and live near the Mississippi River now with my husband and two dogs. I am part of the slowly disappearing middle-class. I was a musician most of my life: drummer/singer/keyboards—but I retired before the plastic surgery flu hit. I have no degrees, which could be a good thing…depending on how you view our educational system. I do have three patents…but that really doesn’t make me a somebody. The one thing that is constant in my life is my OPINIONS, which i have more than perhaps even Carl Sagan could have imagined…mostly political. (yes…my ancestors were crabby buggers)
Hopefully other nobody’s will put their opinions on my site. But, if you happen to be a somebody, you’re more than welcomed to help out.
It’s my Nobody Opinion that Nobody’s Perfect, and Nobody Cares, that Nobody Knows why Nobody Wins, and when that happens, Nobody Wonders, why Nobody Flashes, why Nobody’s Fooled, but then Nobody remembers that Nobody ALWAYS Reports the truth.
You can email me at joyanna_adams@yahoo.com
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